Why I help men speak up
Why I help men speak up is because for many years of my life I experienced the pain of just sitting there, remaining silent and feeling helpless, while there was a war going on inside me and a nasty voice that wouldn’t shut up.
An internal conflict would brew, fighting a part of me who wanted more. Who wanted to create a better life, to be a leader, to be in service to others and make my life mean something significant.
Alas, that initial loud voice took over and would tell me I wasn’t good enough, a fraud and worth it. Leaving me to feel fear, shame and powerlessness.
I would get scared to tell anyone about it because of what they might think of me, I didn’t want to fracture the image I created for myself of having it ‘all together’, and not wanting to be a burden to others.
The feeling of shame would spiral, because it seemed everyone else ‘had it together’ except for me, and felt like I was all alone in the world and perhaps there was something inherently wrong with me.
So, I hid.
I know these are similar thoughts of so many men out there, who choose to remain silent and don’t feel safe to speak up or have anyone to speak to.
Sadly, the world never gets to see their true potential and gifts, and neither do they.
Choosing a path of playing small and self-loathing, when the world is crying out for healthy, conscious heart-led men to step up and lead.
The way we move through this internal suffering is through expression as part of our inner work.
Expressing our thoughts and emotions in witness of another, or at least into a journal, allows us to heal, because we are allowing all parts of ourselves to be seen.
When we allow these parts to be seen and acknowledged, it gives space for self-compassion to come through and ignites the self-acceptance we very much need.
Letting go of self-judgement, opening the door for our soul to take the reins and step into our true greatness.
I’ve seen men who have the courage to speak up and express themselves, completely transform their life, relationships and the world around them, for the better.
This is why I do what I do.
The world becomes a better and safer place when healthy, heart-led and empowering masculine men lead.