Evan Spargo
Men’s Performance Coach | ICF Master Certified Coach
Helping High-performing men rebuild themselves after breakdown.
Relationship crisis. Severe anxiety. Identity collapse.
Become the grounded man: present at home, powerful at work, free to be yourself.
You're the high performer. The achiever. The one everyone relies on.
You built the business. Led the team. Provided for your family.
But somewhere along the way, you lost yourself.
You're performing, but not present.
Achieving, but not fulfilled.
Strong on the outside, empty on the inside.
You can't be vulnerable with your partner.
You can't slow down without guilt.
You can't feel without thinking you're weak.
The fire that once drove you?
Now it's just pressure. Anxiety. A voice that says "you're still not enough."
You didn't break down. You just realised: The life you built isn't the one you want to live.
And you're done performing. You're ready to be real.
If you're a high-performing man who's hit the wall… relationship crisis, severe anxiety, or complete identity loss, and you're ready to rebuild properly...
You're in the right place.
About Evan
I Know This Territory Because I've Lived It
I'm Evan Spargo, ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC) with 2,800+ hours coaching high-performing men through the exact breakdown you're facing.
Before coaching, I was "Spargs", international rugby player for the Philippines, high performer, the guy who looked like her had it all together.
Until I didn't.
For 2 years, I couldn't get out of bed, depression so heavy I couldn't see a way forward.
I'd lost myself trying to be who everyone needed me to be:
The achiever. The provider. The strong one. The guy with the answers.
I tried everything: therapy, self-help books, meditation apps, time off, working harder.
Nothing worked.
Because I was trying to THINK my way out of what I'd FELT my way into.
The breakthrough came when I stopped trying to fix myself and started to face what I'd been avoiding for decades:
The emotional suppression, the "not good enough" wound, the armor I'd built to survive. I finally slowed down.
I had to break the armour. Face the shadow. Integrate the parts I'd split off.
Spargs (the performer) had to meet Evan (the feeler).
Fire had to meet depth.
That integration changed everything.
Now I help high-performing men do the same.
Executives who can't be present with their kids.
Entrepreneurs who achieve but feel empty.
Leaders who perform but can't be vulnerable.
Professionals who succeed but quietly drowning under the pressure.
They all share the same wound: "I don't matter unless I'm proving my worth."
And they all want the same thing: to be grounded.
Present at home. Powerful at work. Free to be themselves.
That's the transformation. That's my life's work.
THE INNER FIRE METHOD™
A 6-Stage Process to Rebuild High-Performing Men After Breakdown
Wake – Get clear on what actually happened and why you can't just "get over it"
Feel – Learn to stay calm under pressure and access presence on demand
Face – Confront what you've been avoiding and see what needs to change
Break – Let go of the patterns and armour keeping you trapped
Rise – Rebuild as the grounded man: confident, present, powerful
Lead – Live the transformation daily at home, work, and in community
It will change how you move, feel, lead, and love, forever.
This is how high-performing men go from breakdown to grounded in 12 weeks.
Work With Me
Two Ways to Transform
1:1 Coaching: Breakdown to Breakthrough Intensive
12-Week Private Transformation for High-Performing Men
This is for you if:
You've survived the breakdown, relationship crisis, severe anxiety, or identity collapse, and you're ready to rebuild properly, not just survive.
What happens in 12 weeks:
We work through the complete Inner Fire Method™ - deep, structured transformation that addresses what's actually keeping you stuck.
You'll go from performing but not present to becoming the grounded man: emotionally regulated, present with family, confident without armour, free to be yourself.
What's included:
12 weekly 1:1 coaching sessions
Direct support between sessions
Somatic practices and embodiment tools
Complete resource vault
Limited to 3-5 clients at a time.
Click here to learn more:
The Ascension Brotherhood
The Brotherhood for Men Who Lead
An online global brotherhood for high-performing men and leaders who refuse to settle. If you’re looking for real challenge, higher standards, and a space to discover who you truly are, you belong here.
This isn’t another men’s group.
It’s a brotherhood for men who already carry weight for others, executives, coaches, founders, leaders, who want to raise their standards, break old patterns, and expand their identity alongside men who demand more from themselves and each other.
Inside the Ascension, you’ll:
Forge bonds that hold you to your highest standard, no more lone wolf
Get challenged to grow emotionally, mentally, and as a leader
Drop the mask, face your blind spots, and commit to transformation with depth, structure, and accountability
Wake up driven, clear, and on fire at work, at home, and in yourself
Master emotional intelligence, shadow integration, and grounded masculine leadership
Every quarter, we attack a new pillar of self leadership, through live workshops, men’s circles, and relentless accountability. You’ll walk out clearer, stronger, and more connected than ever.
Three Levels of Commitment:
Standard: Full access to weekly workshops, men’s circles, training vault, accountability, and private community
Premium: Everything in Standard, plus monthly 1:1, weekly Q&A, and a personalized implementation plan (capped at 15)
If you’re ready to raise your standard, smash your ceiling, and discover who you really are…
Click here to explore The Ascension Brotherhood and apply for a guest seat:
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Book a free 20-minute Clarity Call to uncover what’s holding you back and map your next steps.
Results That Speak Louder Than Promises
From boardrooms to cockpits, from entrepreneurs to athletes, this work changes how men lead, love, and live.
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The Heart-led Man
Podcast
A show dedicated to giving men the tools to overcome personal challenges and evolve into becoming heart-led leaders. We delve into the psyche and development of men, embodiment, relationships, spirituality and leadership. This is for the man who wants to be of high value, who strives to live a life of freedom, success and purpose, whilst leading his life and others from his most powerful source, his heart.
Not sure where to start?
Book a free 20-minute Clarity Call with me
We’ll talk through your situation, uncover what’s holding you back, and map out the next steps to reclaim your edge and break through your performance ceiling.
