About Me
Hi, I’m Evan.
I could start by listing my credentials and achievements, but I know that’s not why you’re here.
You’re here because, deep down, something isn’t right.
Maybe you’re stuck in your head, second-guessing yourself, always battling self-doubt. Maybe you’ve lost the fire you once had, and no matter how much success you create, it never seems to be enough. Or maybe you feel like you’ve done everything right, built the career, earned the respect, found the relationship, yet still feel unfulfilled.
I get it.
For years, I felt like I was constantly chasing something just out of reach.
On the outside, I had it all: playing international rugby for the Philippines, a host, speaking on stage in front of 10,000 people, fitness coach of high-level business owners. People saw me as successful, confident, and on top of my game.
But behind the scenes, I was drowning.
I didn’t know it at the time, but I had built my entire identity around being the “nice guy.” The man who says yes to everything, avoids conflict, keeps the peace, and constantly seeks approval, hoping that if I was good enough, successful enough, or accommodating enough, I would finally feel worthy.
That belief ruled my life.
I avoided confrontation at all costs, replayed conversations in my head for days, and overanalyzed every decision. I needed people to like me, to validate me, to reassure me that I was doing things right.
Anxiety controlled me.
I couldn't walk into a room without working up the courage just to get through the door.
I was trapped in my head, overthinking every move, doubting myself in every situation, and feeling like I had to prove my worth in every interaction.
At the core of it all, I didn’t believe I was enough.
And that belief didn’t come out of nowhere.
Growing up, my relationship with my father shaped so much of how I saw myself. I felt like I had to prove myself to him, to authority figures, to the world. I craved his approval but rarely felt like I had it. So I looked elsewhere for masculine leadership.
And in doing so, I learned from the wrong kind of men.
I thought being the best at everything would finally fill the gaping hole inside me. If I could just be the best athlete, the best student, the most successful, then I would finally feel like enough. But no matter how much I achieved, I could never be happy or satisfied.
Nothing was ever enough.
So I kept running.
I numbed myself with work, distractions like alcohol, partying, anything to escape the feeling that I was failing at something deeper.
But no matter how fast I ran, it all caught up with me.
Rock Bottom: When Everything Crashed Down
In my late twenties, everything came to a head.
I was burnt out, drained, and exhausted.
I woke up every morning with a pit in my stomach, already dreading the day ahead.
I was struggling with alcohol, broke and relying on my parents to cover my rent.
I had damaged a relationship I cared about through my own choices, shattering what little self-worth I had left.
I couldn’t see any good in myself anymore.
For the first time in my life, I reached a place darker than I'd ever known.
That was my wake-up call.
I had spent my entire life trying to outrun my self-doubt, trying to outwork my wounds, trying to prove myself to the world.
But in that moment, I realized: I couldn’t outwork what was happening inside of me.
I had to face it.
The Turning Point: Doing the Inner Work
For the first time, I stopped running.
I started working with a coach, diving into the inner work, shadow work, emotional healing, and mindset transformation, not just the self-development “hacks,” but the real, raw, uncomfortable inner work.
I sat with my shame, my guilt, my self-loathing, everything I had been avoiding for years.
And that’s when I finally understood:
I wasn’t broken. There was nothing wrong with me.
The problem wasn’t that I wasn’t good enough. It was that I had spent my entire life trying to prove my worth instead of owning it.
I had been waiting for permission to be the man I knew I could be.
So I gave myself that permission.
I stopped seeking validation and started building confidence from within.
I learned to lead, in my work, my relationships, my life.
I rebuilt myself, not into a more impressive version, but into a grounded, present, honest one.
And that’s when I realized my purpose.
Playing Rugby for the Philippines.
Why I Do This Work
I became a Master Certified Coach, earning the highest level of coaching credentials, and for several years I poured myself
into helping men through the exact battles I'd fought.
I founded a men's community, The Ascension Brotherhood, and it changed lives, including my own.
That chapter was real, and I'm proud of it. It still runs today.
But the deeper I went, the more I saw something bigger underneath the work.
The men I coached weren't really struggling because they were men.
They were struggling because they were high performers who'd spent years optimising everything except the person underneath the performance. The same thing I'd done. The same thing I see in executives, founders, leaders and athletes, women and men alike.
The achievement was never the problem. The problem was that no one was tending to the human running the whole show. And until someone does, no amount of success ever feels like enough.
That realisation evolved my work into what it is now.
Where I am now?
The past couple of years tested everything I teach.
I went through another major rupture, in my relationship, my finances, my identity as a coach and a leader. All of it stripped back to the bone. I tried to outrun it, and couldn't. So I did the only thing that's ever worked: I stopped, and I faced it.
And on the other side, I let go of who I'd been trying to be… the perfect man, the one with it all figured out, the identity I'd built and outgrown.
What emerged was truer. Lighter. More me. I'm even singing again, something I stopped at ten years old.
This is why I do this work. Not because I have it all figured out, because I keep coming home to myself, again and again, and I know how to help others do the same.
Today I work with high performers, executives, founders, leaders, professionals and athletes, who look like they have it all together, and privately feel like they're running on empty. I help them find what's quietly draining them, nourish the person behind the performance, and get themselves back.
So they don't just perform at their peak. They actually get to enjoy the life they've built.
Helping the person behind the high performance thrive.
Me going through the Sacred Rage Process, an essential part of Men’s Work, which I now facilitate.
Qualifications & Experience
Master Certified Coach (MCC) Credentialed via International Coaching Federation (ICF) (200+ hours training / 2500+ hours coaching)
Certified Transformational Master Coach Coach Masters Academy (225+ hours training / 90+ hours supervised practical coaching)
International Coaching Federation (ICF) Mentor Coach & Training Facilitator Trained, Certified and Mentored hundreds of coaches since 2020 – Coach Masters Academy
Bachelor Degree in Exercise Sports Science & Commerce Majoring in Sports Management Deakin University - Melbourne, Australia
Certified Emotion Code Practitioner (CECP)
Emotion Code Energy Healer certified through Discover Healing
Standard Mental Health First Aider, with Mental Health First Aid Australia
Certified Personal Trainer – Certificate 3 & 4
Level 1 Strength & Conditioning Coach ASCA
10+ years as Personal Trainer & Strength & Conditioning Coach
Former International Athlete
Philippines Men’s National 7’s Rugby Teams
