About Me

Hi, I’m Evan.

I could start by listing my credentials and achievements, but I know that’s not why you’re here.

You’re here because, deep down, something isn’t right.

Maybe you’re stuck in your head, second-guessing yourself, always battling self-doubt. Maybe you’ve lost the fire you once had, and no matter how much success you create, it never seems to be enough. Or maybe you feel like you’ve done everything right, built the career, earned the respect, found the relationship, yet still feel unfulfilled.

I get it.

For years, I felt like I was constantly chasing something just out of reach.

On the outside, I had it all: playing international rugby for the Philippines, a model, speaking on stage in front of 10,000 people, fitness coach of high-level business owners. People saw me as successful, confident, and on top of my game.

But behind the scenes, I was drowning.

I didn’t know it at the time, but I had built my entire identity around being the “nice guy.” The man who says yes to everything, avoids conflict, keeps the peace, and constantly seeks approval, hoping that if I was good enough, successful enough, or accommodating enough, I would finally feel worthy.

That belief ruled my life.

I avoided confrontation at all costs, replayed conversations in my head for days, and overanalyzed every decision. I needed people to like me, to validate me, to reassure me that I was doing things right.

Anxiety controlled me.

I couldn’t walk into a party without a drink in my hand. Before every social event, I would sit outside, working up the courage just to walk through the door.

I was trapped in my head, overthinking every move, doubting myself in every situation, and feeling like I had to prove my worth in every interaction.

And in relationships, I was completely lost.

I attracted dominant, masculine women, not because that’s what I wanted, but because I wasn’t confident enough to lead in my own relationships. I feared expressing my needs, setting boundaries, or standing in my masculine strength. So I would mould myself into whatever I thought they wanted.

The pattern was always the same.

The honeymoon phase would be great, but eventually, the power struggle would emerge. The more I avoided stepping up, the more they had to take control. And the more they led, the more attraction faded. Deep down, I carried so much shame about myself as a man.

At the core of it all, I didn’t believe I was enough.

And that belief didn’t come out of nowhere.

Growing up, my relationship with my father shaped so much of how I saw myself as a man. I felt like I had to prove myself to him, to masculine authority figures, to the world. I craved his approval but rarely felt like I had it. So I looked elsewhere for masculine leadership.

And in doing so, I learned from the wrong kind of men.

I thought being the best at everything would finally fill the gaping hole inside me. If I could just be the best athlete, the best student, the most successful—then I would finally feel like a man. But no matter how much I achieved, I could never be happy or satisfied.

Nothing was ever enough.

So I kept running.

I numbed myself with work, chasing women, alcohol, anything to escape the feeling that I was failing at something deeper.

But no matter how fast I ran, it all caught up with me.

Rock Bottom: When Everything Crashed Down

In my late twenties, everything came to a head.

I was burnt out, drained, and exhausted.

I woke up every morning with a pit in my stomach, already dreading the day ahead.

I was abusing alcohol just to get by. I was broke and relying on my parents to cover my rent.

I had destroyed my relationship through a major infidelity, shattering what little self-worth I had left.

I couldn’t see any good in myself anymore.

For the first time in my life, I questioned whether the world would be better off without me.

That was my wake-up call.

I had spent my entire life trying to outrun my self-doubt, trying to outwork my wounds, trying to prove myself to the world.

But in that moment, I realized: I couldn’t outwork what was happening inside of me.

I had to face it.

The Turning Point: Doing the Inner Work

For the first time, I stopped running.

I started working with a coach, diving into men’s work, shadow work, emotional healing, and mindset transformation, not just the self-development “hacks,” but the real, raw, uncomfortable inner work.

I forced myself to sit with my shame, my guilt, my self-loathing, everything I had been avoiding for years.

And that’s when I finally understood:

I wasn’t broken. There was nothing wrong with me.

The problem wasn’t that I wasn’t good enough. It was that I had spent my entire life trying to prove my worth instead of owning it.

I had been waiting for permission to be the man I knew I could be.

So I gave myself that permission.

I quit porn for good in 2020, something I never thought I’d be able to do.
I stopped seeking validation and started building confidence from within.
I leaned into my masculine strength, learned how to lead, and finally attracted a conscious, high-value woman who I am fully devoted to.
I rebuilt myself, not just into a better man, but into a grounded, confident leader.

And that’s when I realized my purpose.

Me playing Rugby for the Philippines.

Playing Rugby for the Philippines.

Why I Do This Work

I became a Master Certified Coach, earning the highest level of coaching credentials, and built a business

around my purpose - helping men break free from the exact battles I fought.

I know what it’s like to have everything on paper but still feel lost inside.

To be trapped in your head, constantly second-guessing yourself.
To feel like you’re playing small, holding back, and not stepping into your full potential.
To struggle in relationships, always feeling like you have to earn love, never truly feeling powerful as a man.
To be stuck in cycles of self-sabotage, avoidance, or numbing, knowing you’re capable of more but never breaking free.

This is why I coach.

Because I know the powerful, capable, high-caliber man that’s already inside of you.
The leader. The confident, grounded man. The man who knows who he is and owns it.

I help men transform from overthinkers, people-pleasers, and self-doubters into men who lead their lives with clarity, confidence, and strength. To champion heart-led men to share their gifts in the world and create a life to be proud of.

I also built The Ascension Men’s Community, a space where men come together to do this work alongside other powerful men. This is the community I wish I had during my darkest times—where men can support, challenge, and hold each other accountable. It’s now the place where I pour all of my life’s work into, ensuring no man has to struggle in silence.

Because when you stop waiting for permission and start taking ownership, everything changes.

The Work Never Stops

The past year 2023/24 was one of the hardest of my life.

I went through a major rupture in my relationship. I tried to move overseas, failed and faced the fear of losing everything I’d built. My finances collapsed. My identity as a man, a leader, a partner… all of it was stripped back to the bone.

But instead of numbing it or trying to “fix” it… I chose to feel it. I went through another ‘Dark Night of the Soul’ and turned to the very work I guide men through… Somatic healing, shadow work, nervous system regulation, emotional processing and men’s work alongside some of my brothers.

And in that dark, raw space… I rebuilt. Not from my ego, but from my truth.

What emerged was a deeper version of myself: grounded, present, and finally free from the patterns that ruled me for decades. I’m even singing again, something I stopped when I was 10 years old!

This is why I do this work. Because it’s not about perfection. It’s about coming home to yourself again and again… having the tools, the support, and the brotherhood to walk through the fire with clarity and strength.

Me going through the Sacred Rage Process, an essential part of Men’s Work, which I now facilitate.

Who I Work With

I work with high-performing men who:

  • Are outwardly successful but inwardly struggling with anxiety, self-doubt, and overthinking

  • Feel the weight of leadership but silently fear they’re not good enough

  • Keep repeating painful patterns in relationships, avoidant, anxious, or disconnected

  • Crave emotional freedom but feel stuck in the performance trap

  • Are ready to step out of survival mode and into embodied masculine leadership

These men are leaders, CEOs, creatives, athletes, fathers, but under the surface, they feel like something is missing.

They know what’s at stake if they don’t make a change.

They’re not looking for hype, hacks, or quick wins. They’re looking for the real work, because they’re ready to reclaim who they truly are.

You’ve already built success, but you know you’re capable of so much more.

You’re just waiting for something to click.

What’s Next?

This is your turning point.

The work I do isn’t about adding more “strategies” or “mindset hacks.” It’s about doing the deep work that actually sets you free.

If you’re ready to finally:

Build unshakable confidence and stop second-guessing yourself.
Break free from anxiety, perfectionism, and people-pleasing for good.
Master your emotions so you stop self-sabotaging and playing small.
Lead in your relationships, career, and life with clarity, purpose, and power.

Then let’s do the work.

Click below to apply for 1:1 coaching, and let’s start your transformation.

Qualifications & Experience

Master Certified Coach (MCC) Credentialed via International Coaching Federation (ICF) (200+ hours training / 2500+ hours coaching)

Certified Transformational Master Coach Coach Masters Academy (225+ hours training / 90+ hours supervised practical coaching)

International Coaching Federation (ICF) Mentor Coach & Training Facilitator Trained, Certified and Mentored hundreds of coaches since 2020 – Coach Masters Academy

Undergraduate Degree in Exercise Sports Science & Commerce Majoring in Sports Management

Certified Emotion Code Practitioner (CECP)
Emotion Code Energy Healer certified through Discover Healing

Standard Mental Health First Aider, with Mental Health First Aid Australia  

Certified Personal Trainer – Certificate 3 & 4

Former International Athlete

Philippines Men’s National 7’s Rugby Teams