Rebuild After Breakdown
1:1 Coaching - 12-Week Private Transformation for High-Performing Men
You've survived the breakdown.
Relationship crisis. Severe anxiety. Career ending. Complete identity loss.
The man you were, the achiever, the provider, the strong one, couldn't access what you're truly capable of.
That version had to fall apart.
Now we rebuild you as the grounded man.
Present at home. Powerful at work. Free to be yourself.
Stronger, clearer, more yourself than ever before.
Your breakdown is your breakthrough.
WHO THIS IS FOR
This intensive is for you if:
✓ You've been through a breakdown – Relationship ending, severe anxiety, or complete identity collapse
✓ You're past the initial shock – Not in freefall anymore, but functional yet hollow
✓ You're ready to rebuild properly – Not just survive, but become someone new
✓ You're willing to do deep work – Not surface tactics or quick fixes
✓ You can invest in yourself – Time, money, and emotional courage
✓ You're a high-performer – Executive, entrepreneur, professional, leader (age 30-55)
This is NOT for you if:
❌ You're in active crisis right now (get stabilized first, then come back)
❌ You want quick fixes or surface solutions
❌ You're not ready to feel and face your wounds
❌ You can't invest invest financially in yourself now
❌ You want someone to "fix" you (this requires your active participation)
❌ You're looking for casual growth (this is intensive transformation)
THE PROBLEM
You Can't Go Back. And You Know It.
You've tried:
Therapy – It helped you understand the past, but didn't rebuild your future
Time off – Nothing changed when you returned
Self-help books & Podcasts – Consuming content, not transforming
Working harder – Achievement doesn't fill the void anymore
Trying to figure it out alone – You're stuck in your head, making it worse
Numbing, drinking, escapism – You get temporary relief, but back to square one
Here's what you're experiencing right now:
You're performing, but not present with your family
You're achieving, but not fulfilled in your work
You're strong on the outside, empty on the inside
You can't be vulnerable with your partner
You can't slow down without guilt
You can't feel without thinking you're weak
The fire that once drove you? Now it's just pressure, anxiety, a voice that says "you're still not enough"
And you're done.
Done performing. Done surviving. Done pretending.
You're ready to be real.
THE SOLUTION
Breakdown to Breakthrough Intensive
12 weeks. The Inner Fire Method™. Deep transformation.
This isn't therapy (we don't just process the past).
This isn't mindset coaching (we don't just think differently).
This isn't a support group (we don't just share feelings).
This is a complete rebuild.
We work with your entire system… mind, body, emotions, to break through what's actually keeping you stuck and rebuild you as the grounded man.
Most approaches work on THINKING differently.
But you can't think your way out of anxiety.
You can't logic your way into being present.
You can't mentally force yourself to be vulnerable.
The Inner Fire Method™ addresses the root… not just what you think, but what you feel, how you carry tension, and the patterns stored in your body.
This is how you go from:
Performing → Actually being present
Achieving → Actually feeling fulfilled
Surviving → Thriving
THE INNER FIRE METHOD™
A 6-Stage Process to Rebuild High-Performing Men After Breakdown
Stage 1: WAKE
Get Clear on What Actually Happened
Stop trying to think your way out and face the truth of where you are at
See what's no longer working in your relationships, your work, yourself
Understand what led to the breakdown and why you can't just "get over it"
Outcome: Radical clarity. You see exactly where you are and what needs to change.
Stage 2: FEEL
Reconnect to Your Body and Regulate Your System
Learn to stay calm under pressure instead of spiraling into anxiety
Process difficult emotions without shutting down or numbing out
Access presence and groundedness on demand, even in high-stakes moments
Outcome: You shift from shutdown or overwhelm to grounded presence. You can feel without collapsing.
Stage 3: FACE
Confront What You've Been Avoiding
Stop running from the hard truths about yourself and your patterns
See clearly why you keep repeating behaviors that don't serve you
Own what needs to change without judgment or shame
Outcome: Self-awareness without self-attack. You see what's been keeping you stuck, and you're ready to change it.
Stage 4: BREAK
Let Go of What No Longer Serves You
Release the patterns, behaviors, and beliefs keeping you trapped
Break through the walls you've built that now keep you isolated
Stop performing who you think you should be and start accessing who you actually are
Outcome: Freedom from old survival strategies. Space opens up for something new.
Stage 5: RISE
Rebuild From the Ground Up
Integrate passion with discipline, depth with performance, fire with edge
Establish new ways of showing up in relationships, work, and leadership
Practice being present, powerful, and real, without the old armour
Outcome: You become the grounded man: confident without performing, powerful without pressure, present without forcing it.
Stage 6: LEAD
Live the Transformation Daily
Apply your new way of being at home, at work, and in community
Anchor the practices that keep you grounded, regulated, and authentic
Continue evolving through accountability and brotherhood
Outcome: You lead as the grounded man, present at home, powerful at work, free to be yourself. No mask. No compromise.
WHAT'S INCLUDED
The Complete 12-Week Intensive
1. Weekly 1:1 Coaching Sessions (12 × 60 minutes)
Deep work through the Inner Fire Method™. We don't just talk, we break through what's keeping you stuck.
Each session moves you through the transformation: awareness, regulation, confrontation, release, rebuild, integration.
2. Direct Voxer/WhatsApp Support Between Sessions
Access to me when you need guidance between sessions. When you're triggered, stuck, or breaking through, I'm there.
This isn't unlimited therapy. It's strategic support for urgent moments.
3. The Inner Fire Method™ (Complete 6-Stage Transformation)
My proprietary process for rebuilding high-performing men after breakdown.
You'll move through all 6 stages systematically over 12 weeks.
4. Somatic Practices & Embodiment Tools
Breathwork, grounding techniques, nervous system regulation, body-based practices.
These aren't optional extras, they're core to the work. You'll learn to regulate yourself on demand.
5. Resource Vault
Guided practices, frameworks, journaling prompts, exercises, templates.
Everything you need to support the transformation between sessions.
THE TRANSFORMATION
What Changes in 12 Weeks
FROM (Breakdown State) → TO (Grounded Man)
Before
Emotionally shut down
Anxious, spiraling
Can't be present with family
Wearing armor/mask
Stuck in head
Reactive, triggered
Hollow achievement
Lost identity
Surviving
Avoiding emotions
Isolated
After
Emotionally available and regulated
Calm, grounded, present
Fully engaged father/partner
Authentic, no pretending
Connected to body and feelings
Responds with clarity
Meaningful success
Clear sense of self
Thriving
Processing and using them
Connected (self, others, purpose)
Specific Outcomes You Can Expect:
In Your Relationships:
Your partner notices the difference ("You're back")
You can be present with your kids without forcing it
You can have hard conversations without shutting down
Intimacy and trust start rebuilding
You're emotionally available, not just physically present
In Your Work/Leadership:
You lead with clarity and presence
You make decisions without overthinking
You handle pressure without anxiety spiraling
Your team/business moves forward
You're powerful without needing to control
In Yourself:
You sleep through the night
Anxiety is regulated (manageable or gone)
Physical tension released (jaw, shoulders, chest)
You know who you are beyond your achievements
You're confident without armor
You trust yourself again
The Ultimate Metric:
You recognize yourself again, but stronger, clearer, more grounded than ever before.
You're the grounded man:
Present at home.
Powerful at work.
Free to be yourself.
THE INVESTMENT
$3,500 USD
Pay in Full: $3,500
Payment Plan: 3 monthly payments of $1,250 (Total: $3,750)
What You're Investing In:
12 hours of 1:1 coaching with an ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC)
12 weeks of direct support between sessions
A proprietary transformation method refined over 2,800+ coaching hours
Somatic practices and tools you'll use for life
Complete resource vault
The fastest path from breakdown to grounded man
What's the cost of NOT changing?
Another year of:
Relationship on the brink (or already lost)
Anxiety keeping you up at night
Feeling empty despite achieving
Performing instead of being present
Knowing you're capable of more but can't access it
Most men who work with me say: "I wish I'd done this a year ago."
Limited to 3-5 clients at a time.
I don't do volume. I do deep, transformational work with a small number of men who are ready.
WHY WORK WITH ME
I Know This Territory Because I've Lived It
I'm Evan Spargo. ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC) with 2,800+ hours coaching high-performing men through breakdown and rebuild.
Before coaching, I was "Spargs", international rugby captain for the Philippines, high performer, the guy who had it all together.
Until I didn't.
For 2 years, I couldn't get out of bed. Depression so heavy I couldn't see a way forward.
I'd lost myself trying to be who everyone needed me to be: the achiever, the provider, the strong one, the guy with the answers.
The breakthrough came when I stopped trying to fix myself and started feeling what I'd been avoiding for decades.
I had to break the armor. Face the shadow. Integrate the parts I'd split off.
Spargs (the performer) had to meet Evan (the feeler).
Fire had to meet depth.
That integration changed everything.
Now I help high-performing men do the same.
I've coached 200+ executives, entrepreneurs, professionals, and leaders through this exact transformation.
I created the Inner Fire Method™ specifically for men who've survived breakdown and are ready to rebuild.
I founded The Ascension Brotherhood for ongoing community and accountability.
My credentials:
ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC) top 3% of coaches globally
2,800+ hours coaching experience
Currently training in the Hintsa Performance Coach Method (elite performance coaching)
Former international athlete (understand high-performance mindset)
Lived experience of breakdown and rebuild
This isn't life coaching. This is specialized transformation for men post-breakdown.
I don't work with everyone. I work with men who are ready.
Results That Speak Louder Than Promises
From boardrooms to cockpits, from executives to entrepreneurs, this work changes how men lead, love, and live.
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What Client’s Are Saying
FAQs
Common Questions About The Intensive
Q: How is this different from therapy?
A: Therapy processes what happened. I help you rebuild what's next.
Therapy is talk-focused and can take years. This is action-oriented, body-based transformation in 12 weeks.
Think of it this way: therapy helps you understand why you broke down. I help you rebuild who you're becoming.
Q: What if I've already done therapy or other coaching?
A: Great. Most of my clients have.
Therapy gave you insight. Maybe other coaching gave you tactics.
What I do is different, we rebuild your identity from the ground up. We integrate everything you've learned into who you're becoming.
Q: How do I know if I'm ready?
A: You're ready if:
✓ You've been through a breakdown (relationship, anxiety, identity)
✓ You're past the initial shock (not in freefall)
✓ You're functional but hollow
✓ You're willing to do deep emotional work
✓ You're ready to invest in yourself
✓ You want to rebuild properly, not just survive
If you're unsure, book a free clarity call and we'll assess together.
Q: Will this save my relationship?
A: I can't promise that.
What I can promise is you'll become the grounded man, present, emotionally regulated, powerful without armour.
If your relationship can be saved, that version of you is what saves it. You'll show up differently, communicate better, be actually present.
If it can't be saved, you'll be the man who builds healthy relationships moving forward.
Either way, you win.
Q: What if I'm too broken?
A: You're not.
Every man I work with thinks they're uniquely broken, I did for my entire life. They're not, I’m not.
The patterns are remarkably similar: emotional suppression, performance addiction, "not good enough" wounds, father issues, relationship disconnect.
If you've survived the breakdown, you're ready for the rebuild.
Q: Can I do this alongside my job/life?
A: Yes. That's the design.
One 60-minute session per week. Practices you can do in 10-15 minutes daily.
This isn't a retreat where you disappear for weeks. This is transformation integrated into your actual life.
Q: What happens after 12 weeks?
A: Most men join The Ascension Brotherhood for ongoing accountability and community.
Some do periodic check-ins with me (monthly or quarterly).
Some are done, they've got what they need and they run with it.
The intensive gives you the tools and transformation. What you do after is up to you.
Q: What if I can't afford $3,500 right now?
A: I get it. It's an investment.
Here's how I think about it: What's the cost of NOT changing?
Losing your relationship? Another year of anxiety? Staying stuck in the same patterns?
If you're serious about transformation, payment plans are available (3 × $1,250).
If it's truly not the right time financially, The Ascension Brotherhood starts at $149/month, that might be a better starting point.
Your Breakdown Is Your Breakthrough
You didn't break down by accident.
Something inside you knew: the man you were pretending to be couldn't access what you're capable of.
The armor had to crack.
The performance had to stop.
The old you had to fall apart.
So the grounded man could emerge.
You've spent enough time surviving.
You've spent enough time performing.
You've spent enough time stuck.
It's time to rebuild.
Present at home.
Powerful at work.
Free to be yourself.
Stronger, clearer, more yourself than ever before.
This is the transformation.
Are you ready?
What happens on the clarity call?
20 minutes to understand where you are
Assess if you're ready for deep work
See if we're a good fit
Answer any questions you have
If yes, we start within 7 days
No pressure. No sales pitch. Just honest conversation about whether this is right for you.
Limited to 3-5 clients at a time.
When spots are full, there's a waitlist.
Book now.