For the high-performing man who looks like he has it all… but feels like he’s silently falling apart. I help men end the war in their head, and finally feel at peace in who they are, while leading with purpose and quiet confidence.

You’ve mastered performance. But it’s costing you your peace, your purpose, your relationships.
The success is there, but it feels hollow. You feel disconnected from your partner. From yourself.
Behind the scenes? You’re tired. You’re overthinking everything, and no one really knows.
This is where it ends, and where you begin.

This is for you if….

  • You’ve built success, but inside you feel like something’s broken and you don’t know why.

  • You’ve read the books, done the hacks, the therapy... but the inner pressure hasn’t eased.

  • You’re stuck in your head. Anxious. Caught in self-doubt. Exhausted from doing it all alone.

  • Your partner feels distant, your spark is gone, and no matter how hard you try, the intimacy won’t come back.

  • It feels unsafe to be still, and no matter how hard you push, it never feels like enough.

    If you nodded to 2 or more of these, this isn’t just helpful. It’s necessary.

1:1 Coaching for High-Performing Men

This isn’t traditional coaching. This is deep, embodied transformation for the man who’s done everything… except face what’s really underneath it all.

My private coaching container is designed for the high-performing man who:

  • Looks like he has it together, but is quietly collapsing inside

  • Is tired of managing pressure, overthinking, and emotional shutdown

  • Craves true power, purpose, and peace, but doesn’t know where to start

What You’ll Walk Away With:

  • Feel confident navigating high-stakes conversations at work and at home

  • Break free from self-sabotage, people-pleasing, and unprocessed pain

  • Live outside of your head in peace, and silence the inner critic

  • Attract and lead in a secure, passionate relationship

  • Build unshakable confidence rooted in who you are, not what you do

  • Make bold decisions without spiralling into self-doubt

  • Rebuild your sense of self-worth without needing external success

  • Discover the deeper purpose that’s been calling you all along

  • From spiralling into overthinking and anxiety, to becoming the calmest person in the room

This is the work that changes everything, because it changes you.

"I have participated in several development opportunities over my career, but nothing has been as challenging and rewarding as the time I spent with Evan.” - Jackson

Master Certified Coach (MCC) credentialed with over 2,500 coaching hours across 500+ clients globally. International experience coaching elite athletes, high-level leaders, and mission-driven entrepreneurs.

If you’ve done it all and nothing’s shifted, it’s because no one has shown you how to work with what’s underneath it all. This is where we go.

This is for the man who faces… (Before)

The Downward Spiral

You’ve created a life that looks good, but it doesn’t feel good. You feel numb, disconnected, and burnt out. You're going through the motions with no fire behind your eyes.

Success That’s Unsatisfying

You’ve built the business, got the promotion, won the respect, and checked every box, but still feel deeply unfulfilled. You keep achieving more, hoping it will finally feel like enough. Work is a means to an end, it doesn’t light you up within your bones.

The Silent Breakdown in Your Relationship

You’ve lost the connection. She feels distant. You can’t seem to bridge the gap, and it’s killing you. You know she doesn’t trust you to lead emotionally. You’re terrified you’ll lose her… or already have.

The Identity Crisis

You don’t know who you are without the work, the wins, your performance or the pressure. Stillness is terrifying. Without something to prove, you feel purposeless.

People-Pleasing & Passivity

You hold it all in, avoid conflict, and keep saying yes when your body screams no. You’re exhausted from living for everyone else’s expectations.

Suppressed Anger

You don’t explode, but it leaks. In silence. Sarcasm. Withdrawal. Resentment. You punish yourself, or the people you love, because you don’t know how to express what’s really going on inside.

This is for the man who wants to… (After)

Feel Clear and Calm Inside

Wake up with clarity. Move through your day with confidence. Stop the mental noise that’s been eating you alive.

Lead Without Losing Yourself

Show up powerfully in work and relationship, without the burnout, the masks, or the fear of failure.

Reignite Intimacy

Rebuild trust, connection, and passion in your relationship. Be the man who leads with presence, not performance.

Discover Your Purpose Again

No more chasing. Start living and creating from alignment. Build something meaningful, and feel fulfilled doing it.

Own Your Masculine Power

Embody calm strength. Speak your truth. Set the tone in every room you walk into. Step into the king that you are inherently.

Use Emotion as Fuel

Feel fully. Express confidently. Channel your fire into focus, leadership, and deep fulfillment.

What My Coaching is Not

My coaching isn't about rehashing painful memories or endless talk therapy. It's a powerful, action-oriented approach designed to help you break through emotional barriers and achieve tangible results. We won't waste time on vision boards or generic affirmations. Instead, we'll tackle the root causes of your challenges head-on, bridging the gap between where you are and where you want to be.

My Signature Method

My work is anchored in the Inner Fire Method - a 6-stage process I’ve developed after over 2,500 hours of coaching men around the world. The purpose is to end the war in your head and lead from the man you were always meant to be.

You’ll move through:

  1. Wake – Recognize the pattern

  2. Feel – Reconnect to your body

  3. Face – Meet your shadow

  4. Heal – Tend to the boy within

  5. Rise – Reclaim your identity

  6. Lead – Embody your truth in the world

What it looks like in practice:

Shadow Work
We surface what’s been ruling your life from the shadows.
You’ll face what’s been driving the sabotage, avoidance, and internal conflict, and reclaim your power from it.

Embodiment & Nervous System Healing
We get you out of your head and into your body.
This is where emotional integration and lasting peace begins.
You’ll regulate, relax, and come home to yourself.

Identity Reinvention
We rewrite who you think you are.
You’ll shed outdated roles, internalized shame, and rise into grounded, integrated leadership.

This isn’t linear. It’s integrated.
And it’s tailored to your specific emotional patterns, life stage, and leadership edge.

Why It Works: Because it’s not just about change, it’s about wholeness.

You won’t just feel better. You’ll become someone new: More present. More powerful. More emotionally attuned. More embodied in your masculine.

This is for men who are ready to stop talking and start integrating.

I only work with men ready to take full responsibility for their lives and do the deep work. If that’s you, you won’t just experience results. You’ll experience a revolution.

Apply for a private discovery call.
This is an application-only container for high-performing men who are ready to lead from who they truly are.

3 Months Container

The Gateway to Emotional Power, Presence & Purpose

  • This is for the man whose external success has outpaced his internal foundation until now. It’s not about doing more. It’s about recalibrating the system you lead your life from.

    This isn’t personal development.
    It’s a recalibration of your emotional operating system, so you can lead with precision, power, and inner peace.

    You’ll be guided through my Inner Fire Method™, a 6-stage transformation journey that brings you back to peace, purpose, and personal power, from the inside out.

    Whether you choose weekly or fortnightly support, every session is designed to deliver deep internal shifts that ripple into every area of your life.

  • Option 1: The Focused Breakthrough

    For the man who moves fast and values depth. A lean, potent experience.

    • 6 x Fortnightly 90-minute sessions (over 3 months)

    • Tailored integration assignments for maximum impact between sessions

    • Email support for urgent breakthroughs (response within 24–48 hours)

    Ideal for: Men who thrive independently but want a structured, expert-guided breakthrough.

    Investment: $1800 USD
    Payment Plan: $650 USD x 3 months

  • The Accelerated Transformation

    For the man ready to fast-track his emotional evolution and internal leadership.

    • 12 x Weekly 60-minute coaching sessions (over 3 months)

    • Comprehensive initial assessment + strategic roadmap

    • Weekly accountability, tracking & recalibration

    • Unlimited email, text, and voice note support (24-hour response time)

    • 1x Emergency “SOS” call (30 minutes)

    • Premium Access to The Ascension Men’s Community for 3 months

    • 1 x reset intensive session post-program

    Ideal for: Men who are all-in on transformation and want powerful weekly momentum, accountability, and consistent coaching presence.

    Investment: $3600 USD 

    Payment Plan: $1250 USD x 3 months

    *less than the cost of a high-level retreat, yet with triple the depth, structure, and ongoing transformation.”

  • Our 90-Day Results Roadmap:

    ✔ Silence the inner critic and break free from cycles of overthinking, anxiety, and sabotage

    ✔ Reignite emotional connection and intimacy in your relationship, no more numbness or distance

    ✔ Show up decisively in high-stakes conversations with clients, teams, and your partner, without spiraling into self-doubt.

    ✔ Rewire the hidden drivers that keep you stuck in overachieving, pleasing, or pressure mode

    ✔ Make faster, cleaner decisions from a calm internal state, even under intense pressure.

    ✔ Regulate your nervous system and lead from embodied power in high-stakes moments

    ✔ Hold emotional intensity, speak your truth, and move with purpose, in life, love, and leadership

    Progress Reassurance:

    If you don’t experience measurable internal shifts by Month 2, we’ll redesign your game plan or extend our work at no cost. Because when you commit to this work, I commit to your results.

    Case Study:
    "I've been working with Evan for the past six weeks, and during our regular coaching sessions, which involve breath, body and mindset work, I've been able to identify the underlying causes of my mental health concerns and regain complete control over my life. After just a short period of time, I am already focused and motivated once more, having regained my former sense of self-worth and at last my zest for life!" - Lucas O

    Apply Now:
    This is an application-only container for men who are serious about change and committed to leading themselves powerfully.

6 Months Container

Mastery, Identity, & Intimacy: The Deep Recalibration

  • A high-performance transformation experience for the man who’s done with performing, pleasing, or pretending and ready to permanently upgrade the way he leads, loves, and lives.

    Whether you’re scaling a business, navigating an identity shift, or leading others while quietly losing yourself in the process… this is the inner recalibration you didn’t know you needed, but always sensed was missing.

    The shifts you make in these 6 months will ripple across the next 6 years through your business, your relationship, and your internal state of calm power.

    Why This Isn’t Like Other Coaching

    Most programs teach mindset.
    This rewires your identity.

    Most containers give advice.
    I show you how to lead yourself, no matter the storm.

    This is elite-level mentorship for high-performing men ready to reclaim what performance, pressure, and success forced them to abandon:

    • Their emotional clarity

    • Their authentic leadership

    • The man beneath the mask

  • Option 1: The Strategic Mastery Journey

    For the high-performer who values deep reflection, strategic implementation, and space between sessions to integrate.

    • 12 x Fortnightly 90-minute sessions over 6 months

    • Comprehensive initial assessment & goal alignment session

    • Tailored integration assignments + curated support materials

    • Ongoing strategic recalibration based on personal evolution

    • 2x Emergency “SOS” calls (30 minutes)

    • Email support between sessions (24–48 hr response)

    • Standard Access to The Ascension Men’s Community

    • 1 x reset intensive session post-program

    Ideal for: Men seeking high-level transformation with time to implement deeply between sessions.

    Investment: $3600 USD 

    Payment Plan: $650 USD x 6 months

  • Option 2: The Quantum Shift: Personal Mastery

    (Only 3 Quantum Shift spots available per quarter to ensure depth)

    For the man who’s done with surface-level change and wants full-spectrum transformation across identity, leadership, and relationships, fast.

    • 24 x Weekly 60-minute coaching sessions over 6 months

    • Personalised strategic roadmap built from deep onboarding process

    • Weekly progress reviews & course correction

    • Unlimited email, text, and voice note support (24 hr response)

    • 3 x Emergency “SOS” calls (30 minutes)

    • Premium Access to The Ascension Men’s Community

    • 1 x reset intensive session post-program

    • Bonus: Priority access to men’s retreats & immersive intensives

    Ideal for: Visionary leaders and professionals ready to move at pace, with high-touch support, deep accountability, and full commitment to their evolution.

    Investment: $6900 USD 

    Payment Plan: $1185 USD x 6 months

  • Your 6-Month Mastery Outcomes:

    ✔ Recalibrate your emotional operating system, shift from reactive and overwhelmed to grounded, regulated, and precise under pressure

    ✔ Rebuild emotional safety and attraction in your intimate relationship create connection, trust, and polarity without needing to perform

    ✔ Navigate high-stakes moments in business and life with calm, clarity, and conviction

    ✔ End performance-based self-worth build unshakable confidence rooted in identity, not achievement

    ✔ Become unshakeably grounded in who you are, no more shapeshifting to please, prove, or be needed

    ✔ Develop a high-performance daily practice, fuel your energy, focus, and purpose with consistency

    ✔ Hold emotional intensity like a leader, guide others while staying deeply rooted in yourself

    ✔ Integrate tools that serve you for life, long after our work ends, you’ll be able to lead through pressure, uncertainty, and transformation

    ✔ Leave with a permanent upgrade in how you see yourself, show up in relationships, and lead your mission

    Success didn’t break you, disconnection did. And now it’s time to come home to yourself.

    Authority Reassurance: This container is led by Evan Spargo: Master Certified Coach (ICF MCC), 2500+ hours of coaching experience, international athlete, and founder of The Ascension Men’s Community. You’re hiring a partner in lifelong transformation, one who’s walked through the fire and built the frameworks to guide you through your own.


    “My life changed when I met Evan. His ability to work with me through high pressure situations and issues I face daily with work and family life was outstanding. I’m a different person today… a better one!” - Luke P

    Apply Now: Entry into this container is by application only. Serious inquiries from men ready to step fully into their next evolution.

12 Months - The ‘All In’ Journey

The Sovereign Man: Elite Yearlong Leadership & Mastery Experience (Limit to 5 per year)

  • For the man who’s ready to build a legacy and fulfil their soul’s mission, not just a life.

    This is a rare, invitation-only experience for high-performing men who have reached the top of their game but know something deeper is calling. You’ve already built success. Now you’re here to master yourself, lead powerfully, and become unshakable in every domain of life.

    This isn’t coaching. It’s a complete identity recalibration and leadership evolution, one that permanently changes how you move, speak, love, and lead.

    You will be held to the highest standard you’ve ever experienced.

  • The 12-Month Transformation Includes:

    • Weekly 60-minute private coaching sessions

    • A personalized 12-month strategic roadmap updated quarterly

    • Unlimited voice, text, and email support (24 hr response)

    • 4 x Emergency "SOS" calls for high-stakes or emotional moments

    • Premium Access to The Ascension Men’s Community for 12 months

    • NEW: Admission ticket to 1 x Men’s Retreat (Flights excluded)

    • NEW: Quarterly Relationship & Intimacy Check-ins (optional partner inclusion)

  • What You’ll Walk Away With:

    • Complete emotional sovereignty and nervous system mastery

    • Deep trust in yourself and the ability to lead under pressure

    • The end of imposter syndrome, perfectionism, and performance-based worth

    • Repaired or completely transformed relationships (or the clarity to walk away)

    • Unshakeable inner leadership, no more outsourcing your power

    • A clear purpose and mission, with the energy and alignment to fulfil it

    • A new identity: not just a successful man, but a sovereign one

    This work stays with you for life. The man who enters this container will not be the one who walks out. This is not about improvement. This is about rebirth.

    Investment: USD $10,800 Upfront (Save $1200)

    Payment Options: USD $1000 x 12 or $3600 × 4

    [Optional Add-On]: Quarterly 1:1 intensives or 4-day private retreat (inquire for rates)

    Apply Below: Entry into this container is by application only. You must be ready to lead yourself with full commitment and no fallback plan.

    APPLY NOW

  • CLIENT STORY: From Self-Doubt to Sovereign Leadership

    Jerry Li, Investment Associate

    Jerry came to me successful on paper, but spinning internally. As a high-achieving financial analyst, he constantly second-guessed himself, feared judgment in meetings, and carried a pressure to always get things right. His anxiety was quiet, but it controlled everything, his career, his confidence, his relationships.

    His Challenges:

    • Overthinking & Anxiety: A relentless inner critic and constant loop of self-doubt.

    • Fear of Judgment: Avoided speaking up, worried about being wrong or seen as inadequate.

    • No Clear Definition of Success: Chasing external validation without internal fulfillment.

    • Decision Paralysis: Struggled to trust his own instincts, defaulted to over-analysis.

    • Lack of Presence: Rarely felt grounded, always thinking ahead, rarely enjoying now.

    Our Work Together:

    What Jerry thought he needed was more confidence. What he actually needed was clarity and integration. Through deep identity work, shadow exploration, and emotional recalibration, Jerry learned to trust his decisions, speak with certainty, and navigate life without spiraling into self-doubt.

    He developed emotional awareness, tools for nervous system regulation, and the ability to see himself beyond performance. As a result, he stopped outsourcing his power, and started leading from it.

    The Breakthrough:

    Jerry landed a new leadership role with greater responsibility and significantly higher pay, something he previously believed was “out of reach.” More importantly, he felt ready for it. The transformation was evident not just in his job title, but in the way he walked, spoke, and showed up calm, grounded, and certain of who he is.

    His Words:

    “I’ve had the privilege of working with Evan as my coach and mentor for the past year, and I can confidently say that the experience and outcomes have been transformative and well beyond my expectations. Through our sessions together, Evan has been the guiding force behind the growth of my confidence, leadership skills, and ability to face challenges with excitement and optimism, culminating in me landing a new role that has enabled me to progress into the next chapter of my career.

    Evan demonstrated an exceptional ability to challenge me to be inquisitive about my upbringing, past experiences, and the motivations behind my goals. Not only did Evan provide invaluable and memorable insights, but he also tailored tools and strategies to help me navigate both personal and professional challenges. In each conversation, his guidance played a crucial role in my mindset growth, the tug-of-war against an overthinking persona, and has set me on a path to realise my potential.

    If you’re seeking a coach who can help you unlock your leadership potential, build your confidence, and transform how you approach challenges across all aspects of life, I would wholeheartedly recommend Evan. His commitment to helping others thrive, combined with his expertise, experience, and genuine passion and care, makes him an outstanding mentor.”

What clients are saying:

  • "I first contacted Evan because I was unhappy with the direction my career and personal lives were taking, which was having a negative impact on my health. I was struggling with sadness, anxiety, low self-esteem, and general negativity. I've been working with Evan for the past six weeks, and during our regular coaching sessions—which involve breath, body and mindset work—I've been able to identify the underlying causes of my mental health concerns and regain complete control over my life. After just a short period of time, I am already focused and motivated once more, having regained my former sense of self-worth and at last my zest for life!"

    Lucas O’Brien

  • "I have approached Evan because I was looking to find a way forward. I also felt like I needed to discover my own ‘voice’ and embody it in all aspects of my life. Working with Evan was magical. It was uplifting, deep, sometimes emotional, and definitely healing. He is a great coach and a human being with a big heart. He is very real and open. He knows how to take you to places in your soul where you may not go on your own. And in doing so, you feel guided and supported. I recommend working with Evan if you are serious about deep personal work and need an experienced facilitator to partner with you."

    Sergey Helmar

  • "I have participated in several Development opportunities over my career, but nothing has been as challenging and rewarding as the time I spent with Evan. Working together for three months, Evan really challenged me and my mindset, helping me to uncover and see things which have unlocked immense clarity for me. I would highly recommend Evan to anyone out there and I look forward to working with him again one day."

    Jackson Wilkes

  • I’ve had the privilege of working with Evan as my coach and mentor for the past year, and I can confidently say that the experience and outcomes have been transformative and well beyond my expectations. Through our sessions together, Evan has been the guiding force behind the growth of my confidence, leadership skills, and ability to face challenges with excitement and optimism, culminating in me landing a new role that has enabled me to progress into the next chapter of my career. Evan demonstrated an exceptional ability to challenge me to be inquisitive about my upbringing, past experiences, and the motivations behind my goals. Not only did Evan provide invaluable and memorable insights, but he also tailored tools and strategies to help me navigate both personal and professional challenges. In each conversation, his guidance played a crucial role in my mindset growth, the tug-of-war against an overthinking persona, and has set me on a path to realise my potential.

    Jerry Li

  • "Evan helps create a space for insights to drop in, and I always end up feeling so much more grounded and connected to life. Our 6-months together was beyond powerful and so meaningful for me as I’ve been navigating feelings of extreme anxiety plus a sense of lacking any clear direction.  Many coaches and practitioners have lots of great tools to help, but Evan is above and beyond when it comes to helping me feel safe, seen and asks very powerful questions that help unlock my own blocks. The best part of working with Ev is that he is present in the moment, and has what is seemingly an innate ability to help me move through blocks & limiting beliefs to find answers to the questions that keep me stuck, and most importantly a sense of peace!"

    Liam O’Donnell

  • "I would definitely recommend Evan's services to friends, colleagues and even family. I engaged with Evan at a later date to help me better understand my team at work, his input was very insightful and helpful to me better understanding how each individual operates. I would strongly recommend this to any business leader. “If you want different results than what you’re getting, you have to try different approaches."

    Martin Cerantonio

  • "My experience working with Evan has been incredibly rewarding. I’ve seen half a dozen therapists over the years and few have done for me what Evan has. Evan treats our sessions with care, insight and such a safe space that I have been able to be my most vulnerable. This has allowed me to overcome difficulties I didn’t know possible. His approach allows for emotional, spiritual, and psychological growth and health. Honestly our sessions are astoundingly liberating and I feel so lucky to have found such a caring and talented person to help guide me on my journey. I leave every session amazed with the results."

    Alex M

  • "My life changed when I met Evan. His ability to work with me through high pressure situations and issues I face daily with work and family life was outstanding. I’m a different person today… a better one!"

    Luke Pace

  • "Coaching with Evan helped me towards reaching self-fulfilment and to take more control of my life. As a result of our coaching, I gained a lot of value as I created my own company and now have time to go and find my own clients. I now get to see my children and family more often, and help more people through my work."

    Gaurav Rai

  • “Evan is world-class. That very well may be an understatement. I regularly internalise my emotions and convince myself that certain things in life don’t affect me. These things inevitably overflow and I’m so grateful that I have Evan to turn to when I’m experiencing turmoil. I have never walked away from a session without greater clarity, understanding and resolution than when I came in.” He IS life-changing. Thank you Evan!"

    Matthew Vacirca

  • "I recommend Evan as a great coach. His warm and engaging approach with clear techniques enabled me to identify the personal barriers that were affecting the way i was addressing some issues at work. Evan guided me through a process that challenged me to identify and acknowledge some beliefs that were impacting my capacity to reach my true potential. I am now in a much better place both personally and professionally thanks to the work i have done with Evans skilful guidance and support."

    Dr. David Sykes

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