1:1 Performance Coaching - Private Coaching for High-Performing Men
You're excelling on the outside, but something is quietly costing you everything else.
I help high-performing men perform at their best without compromising their wellbeing.
Wellbeing. Deeper Living. Better Performance.
For the man who has already reached a level of success…
And knows there's another level available.
Not just more achievement, but more depth, more presence, more fulfilment.
More of a life that actually feels like yours.
This isn't about more hours or harder hustle.
It's a different internal operating system, for how you think, lead, decide, perform and live.
This is where high-performing men stop white-knuckling their way through life and start actually thriving in it.
You've built something impressive.
Strong career. Good income. Respected in your field. By every external measure, you're winning.
But privately, something is off… You’ve been thinking:
"I'm killing it at work but my health and relationships are suffering."
"I've achieved everything I set out to, and I still feel empty."
"I want to perform at my best but it always comes at the cost of what matters most."
"I keep hitting the same ceiling no matter how hard I push."
"Something is off, I just can't put my finger on it."
Whether you're a CEO, founder, executive or elite athlete, if those words landed, keep reading.
Your body already knows it before your mind admits it.
The tension in your jaw. The tightness in your chest.
The weight in your shoulders that won't leave no matter how hard you train, how much you rest, or how hard you push through.
You haven't collapsed, but you're running on fumes.
And you know, if something doesn't shift, it's only a matter of time until you do.
The problem isn't more tactics, more optimisation, more pushing through.
You've tried that, and it got you here.
The next level requires understanding what's actually running the show underneath all the achievement, and changing it. That's not soft work, that's the highest performance work there is.
WHAT THIS WORK ACTUALLY DOES
Most high-performers have tried everything to break through.
More strategy. Harder training. Better habits. Therapy. Another book. Another podcast.
Some of it helps. None of it fully works.
Because they're solving the wrong problem.
The ceiling isn't tactical. It's internal. And it won't respond to external solutions.
This work goes to the root.
We identify the nervous system patterns, unconscious beliefs and emotional armour that are quietly running your performance, and driving the gap between who you are on the outside and how you actually feel on the inside.
Then we close that gap.
Body. Mind. Identity. Integrated.
Not just thinking differently, operating differently. At the level where everything changes.
What becomes different:
A nervous system that performs under pressure, not one running on chronic stress and fumes
A mind that's clear and decisive, not one spinning in reactivity and self-doubt
A body that supports elite performance, strong, regulated and vital
Leadership presence that's natural, not forced or performed
Relationships that are genuinely connected, not just coexisting
A life that feels alive, not just productive
This isn't about more.
It's about going deeper than you've gone before, and finding out what's actually available on the other side.
No more white-knuckling your way through. No more success that costs your health, joy or relationships. No more performing the man everyone needs while the real one quietly disappears.
Grounded. Integrated. Fully alive.
Not just high-performing, but performing at your highest level and actually enjoying the life you've built.
THE INNER FIRE METHOD™
A Science-Backed Framework for Elite Performance
Most high-performing men try to break through their ceiling the same way they've broken through everything else.
Harder. Faster. Smarter.
It doesn't work here.
The ceiling isn't external. It's the gap between who you've become on the outside and what's actually running the show underneath the nervous system patterns, the unconscious identity, the emotional armour built for survival that's now blocking the next level.
The science behind why:
Norman Doidge's neuroplasticity research shows awareness is the first step to rewiring the brain without it, patterns run on autopilot forever
Dr Bessel van der Kolk demonstrates that unprocessed stress is stored somatically in the body, not just the mind. You can't think your way out of it.
Dr Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory shows a dysregulated nervous system fundamentally limits emotional intelligence, decision making and leadership presence
This is why tactics don't work at the ceiling.
The root is physiological and psychological, not strategic.
The Inner Fire Method™ addresses all of it.
Stage 1: WAKE
See what's actually driving the ceiling, not the symptoms, the root
Cut through the surface to identify unconscious patterns, blind spots and limiting beliefs running your performance
Stop repeating the same mistakes in leadership, relationships and decision making
See exactly what needs to change, not what you think needs to change
Outcome: Radical clarity. You see exactly where you are and what needs to change.
Stage 2: CONNECT
Reconnect to Your Body and Rebuild Physical Capacity
Learn to stay calm under pressure instead of spiralling into anxiety, shift your baseline from chronic stress to regulated performance state
Process difficult emotions without shutting down or numbing out, through movement and breathwork
Work directly with your nervous system using Polyvagal Theory and somatic practices
Access presence and groundedness on demand, even in high-stakes moments
Outcome: Calm under pressure. Present on demand.
Stage 3: FACE
Confront What You've Been Avoiding
Identify the attachment patterns and emotional triggers running your leadership and relationships
Use emotional granularity research to precisely name and regulate what's been driving reactivity
See what's been keeping you stuck, without judgment, without shame
Outcome: Self-awareness without self-attack. You face what's been keeping you stuck, and you're ready to change it.
Stage 4: BREAK
Let Go of What No Longer Serves You. Release the armour. Access the power underneath.
Release the patterns, behaviors, and beliefs keeping you trapped
Break through emotional armour and neural pathways running on autopilot
Stop performing who you think you should be and start accessing who you actually are
Outcome: Freedom from old survival strategies. The real you emerges.
Stage 5: RISE
Build the identity that matches your potential.
Build a new identity rooted in integration, not achievement, not performance, but who you actually are
Integrate passion with discipline, depth with performance, fire with edge
Establish new ways of showing up in relationships, work, and leadership
Practice being present, powerful, and real, without the old armour
Outcome: You become the grounded man: You lead from who you actually are, not who you think you need to be.
Stage 6: LEAD
Live it fully, at work, at home, in every room you walk into
Embed the transformation into daily leadership, relationships and physical performance
Build conditions for sustained flow state, drawing on Hintsa Performance methodology used with F1 drivers and Fortune 500 executives
Anchor the practices that keep you grounded, regulated, and authentic
Continue evolving through accountability
Outcome: You lead as the grounded man, present at home, powerful at work, free to be yourself. No mask. No compromise.
WHY IT WORKS
This isn't therapy.
This isn't motivation.
This isn't another coaching program that goes around in circles.
It's grounded, direct, science-backed transformation for high-performing men who want real, measurable results.
After 2,800+ hours coaching executives, leaders, athletes and founders, I've built a methodology that integrates neuroscience, somatic psychology, nervous system regulation, identity work and high-performance coaching into one complete system.
No bypassing. No hype. No insight for insight's sake.
Real change. Lived day to day.
In how you think, how you lead, how you show up and how you feel.
THE PACKAGES
BY APPLICATION ONLY Limited to 3–5 clients at any one time
THE INTENSIVE 12 Weeks
Pay in full: $3,500 USD | Payment plan: 3 x $1,250 USD
The breakthrough phase.
Work through the complete Inner Fire Method™ and leave with a completely different internal operating system, in how you think, lead, perform and live.
Includes:
60-min weekly 1:1 sessions
Direct Voxer access between sessions
Complete Inner Fire Method™ across all 6 stages
Somatic practices and embodiment tools
Personalised physical performance protocols
THE PARTNERSHIP 6 Months
Pay in full: $6,000 USD | Payment plan: 3 x $2,100 USD
The breakthrough and the embedding.
Not just a shift, a permanent change in how you operate. The Intensive breaks the pattern. The Partnership locks in the new one, under real pressure, in real situations, across every area of your life.
Includes:
60-min weekly 1:1 sessions
Direct Voxer access between sessions
Monthly 90-min deep dive on a specific performance challenge - leadership, relationships, decision making, physical performance
Complete Inner Fire Method™ across all 6 stages
Somatic practices and embodiment tools
Personalised physical performance protocols
12-month vision session at month 6
WHO THIS IS FOR
This IS for you if:
✓ You're a high-performing executive, leader, founder or elite athlete
✓ You're excelling externally but know something needs to shift internally
✓ You keep hitting the same ceiling regardless of how hard you work
✓ You want to perform at your peak without sacrificing health, relationships or joy
✓ You're ready to go deeper than you've gone before
✓ You can invest seriously, financially, emotionally and with your time
This is NOT for you if:
✗ You want a quick fix or another optimisation hack
✗ You want someone to tell you what you want to hear
✗ You're not ready to look honestly at what's actually going on
✗ You want to be fixed rather than transformed
Most men who work with me say the same thing at the end:
"I wish I'd done this a year ago."
They think about the year spent white-knuckling it and relying on will-power alone.
The decisions made from a depleted state. The moments missed with family. The ceiling they kept hitting. The energy burned trying to push through something that required going inward.
That's the real cost.
Not the investment. The waiting.
Another year of achieving without fulfilment. Running on fumes while calling it ambition. Present physically but absent everywhere that matters.
The investment is significant. The cost of staying the same is greater.
WHY WORK WITH ME
I know this territory because I've lived it.
I used to be the guy who wanted to disappear.
Shy. Quiet. Low self-worth. Nobody would have guessed I'd go on to play for the Philippines National 7s Rugby Team, speak on stages in front of 10,000 people, and spend 2,800+ hours coaching executives and high performers across the world.
But for years, the outside and the inside told completely different stories.
I had built my entire identity around achieving. The next milestone was always going to be the one that finally made me feel enough.
It never did.
When it finally broke, through heartbreak, financial loss, and bouts of depression, I had to stop trying to think my way out and start feeling what I'd been avoiding for decades.
I went through the fire, somatic work, shadow work, nervous system regulation, and men's brotherhood. It was then I found out what I was actually made of.
That process changed everything. Not because it was comfortable. Because it was finally real.
Now I channel all of it… the lived experience, the MCC credential, the years in elite sport, 10+ years in physical performance, into one focus:
Helping high-performing men perform at their best without compromising their wellbeing.
ICF Master Certified Coach (MCC) Top 3% globally
2,800+ hours coaching executives, leaders and athletes Former
International Rugby Player, Philippines National 7’s Team
10+ years experience as a Strength & Conditioning Coach
Founder of The Ascension Brotherhood
Results That Speak Louder Than Promises
From boardrooms to cockpits, from executives to entrepreneurs, this work changes how men lead, love, and live.
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What Client’s Are Saying
FAQs
Common Questions About The Intensive
Q: How is this different from therapy?
Therapy processes the past. This builds what's next.
Therapy is valuable, many of my clients do both simultaneously. But therapy alone won't get you to the next level. It's talk-focused, often years-long, and rarely addresses the body where stress and patterns are actually stored.
This is action-oriented, body-based, and forward-focused. We use what's in the past as fuel, not as the destination.
Think of it this way: therapy helps you understand why you're stuck. I help you get unstuck.
Q: What if I've already done therapy or other coaching?
Good. Most of my clients have.
Therapy gave you insight. Other coaching gave you tactics. What's missing is the integration, where insight becomes identity and tactics become natural behaviour.
That's exactly what this work does.
Q: How do I know if I'm ready?
You're ready if:
✓ You're a high-performing man excelling externally but know something needs to shift internally
✓ You keep hitting the same ceiling regardless of how hard you work
✓ You want to perform at your peak without it costing your health, relationships or joy
✓ You're willing to go deeper than you've gone before
✓ You can invest seriously, financially, emotionally and with your time
If you're unsure, book a discovery call. We'll work it out together in 20 minutes.
Q: Will this save my relationship?
I can't promise that.
What I can promise is you'll become a different man, present, emotionally regulated, grounded, connected.
If the relationship can be saved, that version of you is what saves it. You'll show up differently. Communicate better. Actually be there.
If it can't be saved, you'll be the man who builds something better next time.
Either way, you win.
Q: What if I'm not sure I'm ready to go this deep?
Most men feel that way before they start.
The men who get the most from this work aren't the ones who had it all figured out. They're the ones who were honest enough to admit something needed to change, and courageous enough to do something about it.
The discovery call will tell you everything you need to know about whether this is right for you right now.
Q: Can I do this alongside my job and life?
Yes. That's the design.
One 60-minute session per week. Integration practices you can do in 10-15 minutes daily.
This isn't a retreat where you disappear. This is transformation built into your actual life, because that's the only kind that lasts.
Q: What happens after the program ends?
Most men continue with one of two paths.
Some join The Ascension Brotherhood, an ongoing community of high-performing men committed to doing this work alongside others who demand the same of themselves.
Some continue with monthly or quarterly check-in sessions.
Some are done, they have what they need and they run with it.
The program gives you the tools, the transformation and the framework. What you build after is yours.
Q: What if I can't afford this right now?
I understand. It's a real investment.
Here's the question worth sitting with: what's the cost of not changing?
Another year of the same ceiling. The same depletion. The same gap between where you are and where you know you could be.
If you're serious but the timing is challenging, a payment plan is available. Three monthly payments of $1,250 for the Intensive.
If it's genuinely not the right time, The Ascension Brotherhood starts at $99/month. That's a real starting point for the man who wants to begin the work before committing to the full intensive.
READY TO PERFORM AT YOUR BEST WITHOUT COMPROMISING YOUR LIFE?
You've built something impressive.
Now it's time to build the man behind it.
What happens on the Discovery call?
30 minutes to understand where you are
Assess if you're ready for deep work
See if we're a good fit
Answer any questions you have
If yes, we start within 7 days
No pressure. No sales pitch. Just honest conversation about whether this is right for you.
Limited to 3-5 clients at a time.
When spots are full, there's a waitlist.
Book now.