How to Be the Man She Can Finally Relax With
A practical guide for high-performing men to rebuild trust, polarity, and connection, without losing yourself.
33-page guide • Quick-Win Checklist • Weekly Check-In • Bonus Guided Practice
Does This Sound Familiar?
You’re successful in your career, respected by peers, and considered a high performer.
But at home, it feels like you’re missing the mark.
You’ve tried being the nice guy, the pleaser, the calm one.
You’ve tried fixing, reasoning, explaining, but it only pushes her further away.
The spark fades, intimacy dries up, and you’re left wondering: “Why isn’t this working?”
The truth?
It’s not about doing more.
It’s about becoming more.
More grounded. More embodied. More you.
This guide will show you how, and how to change it fast.
What You’ll Learn Inside
In this 33-page practical guide, you’ll discover the 5 core traits of grounded masculine leadership that make a woman feel safe, connected, and deeply attracted again.
Trait #1: Unshakable Presence
How to lead from your energy, not just your words.
Trait #2: Emotional Regulation
Hold chaos without collapsing.
Trait #3: Attuned Communication
Speak to her nervous system, not just her mind.
Trait #4: Leading the Emotional Space
Protect the relationship’s emotional health with intention.
Trait #5: Self-Leadership (Without losing yourself in relationship)
Stop abandoning yourself for approval and reclaim your inner authority.
Designed to create results she feels, not just concepts you read.
Practical Tools You Can Use Right Away
✅ A Quick Win Checklist
Tangible weekly actions to lead with clarity, presence, direction and grounded masculine energy.
✅ Relationship Check-In Framework
10+ powerful weekly questions to create intimacy, connection, and teamwork.
✅ Bonus Guided Emotional Regulation Practice
A tool to master your emotions on your own, so you can show up stronger in your relationship.
“She feels you before she hears you.
She’s not responding to your logic, she’s responding to your presence.”
Why This Guide Matters
❌ If nothing changes…
The distance between you will keep growing.
Conversations will turn into arguments, or worse, silence.
She’ll stop sharing her heart with you because she doesn’t feel safe to.
Resentment will build until it’s too heavy to ignore.
The intimacy you once had will fade, and you’ll wonder why she no longer looks at you the same way.
She’ll carry the weight of leading the relationship, and eventually she’ll get tired.
If nothing changes, she may start asking herself: “Is this the man I want to spend the rest of my life with?”
✅ When you embody these traits…
She finally feels safe to exhale in your presence.
She looks at you with admiration and trust again.
You lead with grounded confidence instead of reactivity.
She feels seen, cherished, and deeply desired.
Attraction and intimacy return, not forced, but natural.
She relaxes into her feminine energy, because she knows you’ve got her.
You reclaim your edge as a man, not through control, but through presence and strength.
Love feels lighter, sex feels alive, and your connection grows stronger with time.
Apply just one exercise this week and you’ll feel the shift.
What Men Are Saying
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"Evan has helped me understand what changes to make to become a better father and husband. My relationship to my son and to my wife has completely changed since. I have learned to deal with traumas and a lot of interference in my life to make life changing adjustments. The big one for me is that I manage the feeling of anger better which has been very destructive for myself and people I care about. Now I feel empowered and supported to face all the hurdles with the needed tools to become the man I aspire to be."
Frank, Customer Success Leader
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"Before, I craved romantic connection but deprived myself through self-sabotage and avoidant behaviours. Through Evan’s work, I realised I was creating my own misfortune, and by acknowledging my patterns I could change my outcomes. As a result, I’ve welcomed in a very healthy and loving relationship, and together we’ve grown stronger through challenges, leaving me optimistic about the future."
Matt, High School Teacher
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“I approached Evan because I needed a way forward and to discover my own voice. Working with him was uplifting, deep, and healing. He is real, open, and knows how to guide you to places in your soul you wouldn’t reach alone. I recommend him if you’re serious about deep personal work and want an experienced coach by your side.”
Chris, Co-founder & COO
About Evan
I’m Evan Spargo, a Master Certified Coach (MCC), a credential held by fewer than 4% of coaches worldwide, with over 2,500 hours of experience coaching high-performing men, business owners, leaders, and athletes across the globe.
But I didn’t start here.
For years, I sabotaged my relationships. I was the “nice guy”, a people pleaser, a pushover who bent myself to keep the peace. Yet when things got too close, too real, I would pull away.
I was highly avoidant, addicted to porn, emotionally closed off, and pushed love away to the point of infidelity at one stage. It was a painful, repeating cycle: over-give to win love, then retreat or sabotage when intimacy exposed the parts of me I didn’t want to face.
I hid behind pursuing success, womanising, attracted the wrong partners, and lived as a lone ranger, until I reached the point where I could no longer run from myself.
That’s when I chose to do the inner work.
To face the shadows and suppressed emotions intimacy exposed in me. To heal, and finally open myself to conscious, healthy love.
Today, I’m in the most loving and aligned relationship of my life with Bree, the woman of my dreams, and a masculine–feminine dynamic I once thought was impossible.
Now I dedicate my work to helping men break free from silent battles, lead with presence and confidence, and create deep, fulfilling relationships that last.
Your Investment
Most men spend thousands on therapy, books, or years figuring this out the hard way.
This guide gives you the exact traits, tools, and practices you need, for just $9 USD.
For the price of two coffees, you’ll learn how to:
Regain polarity and attraction.
Lead with confidence and clarity.
Create the relationship you both actually want.
Take the First Step Now
Don’t wait until it’s too late.
Become the man she can finally relax with.
FAQs
How do I receive the guide?
You’ll get instant access after purchase, plus an email receipt with a download link so you can keep it handy.
How long will it take me to use this?
You can read it in one sitting, and the reflections and exercises are designed to fit easily into your week. Best practice is done over 5 weeks, focusing on one trait per week.
Is it only for men in relationships?
It’s written with men in relationships in mind, but single men use it to prepare for a healthy future partnership or while dating.
Can women buy this for their partner?
Yes. Many women do. It gives your partner the clarity and tools to finally understand and act on what you’ve been feeling.
Do you offer refunds?
Because this is a digital guide delivered instantly, all sales are final. But if you put it into practice, you’ll notice shifts in your relationship dynamic right away.
What if I want 1:1 support?
Because this is a digital guide delivered instantly, all sales are final. But if you put it into practice, you’ll notice shifts in your relationship dynamic right away.
