The overlooked key to achieving any goal

The overlooked key to achieving any goal...

Simply put, it’s to get out of your own way.

One of our strongest masculine traits is to find logical solutions and create structure to do so, we do this naturally.

To get clear on what we want to achieve, create a plan, learn what we need to and take action.

Sounds simple right... But we tend to complicate things so much, because we are complicated ourselves.

We like to make things hard for ourselves, we get into our heads, overthink, emotions get in the way, we get distracted, we blame others or the weather, we seek short term gratification, we avoid what’s hard and uncomfortable..

We get in our own way, and we stop following the simple process we initially laid out.

Example:

Set goal: Lose 3kg in 12 weeks (1kg a month)

Create plan: Exercise 4 x per week, cut out 50% of sugar intake

Action: Do it.

It’s so simple, yet we make it so hard for ourselves.

I laugh because I notice myself getting in my own way, way too often, until someone points out what I’m doing, and I realise I’m sabotaging myself, and creating complication as an excuse to procrastinate from doing the necessary work.

We simply avoid doing the work required, because it's uncomfortable and temporarily painful.

However, the pain of staying the same and not changing is the pain that stays with you forever.

So how do we get out of our own way?

Tell someone your plan, check-in with them and let them point out how you’re getting in your own way.

I tell my partner everything I plan to do, and she has no problem at all pointing out when I'm not doing it and questioning all my excuses, it can definitely hurt my ego initially lol, but boy does it get me moving.

I'm always working with a coach or mentor who points out my blind spots, how I'm getting in my own way, but also my potential and pushing me towards it. Most of all, they keep me highly accountable to what I promise.

I have the Ascension Men's Community to challenge and champion me. A process where the guys point out where I need to be challenged, an area I can improve on or a blindspot. On the flip side, they champion me by reminding me where I am excelling, my potential and encourage me to keep moving forward. We do this for each other, which has become a transformational process for the guys.

As men, we need feedback, a constant reality check.

We need to learn how to receive feedback and take it on board, so that we can get out of our own way and achieve the goals we desire.

This system will move you faster towards your dream outcomes more than you could ever do on your own.

It's time to get your regular dose of reality check, and away you go!