A common complaint I hear from men and their partners...

A common complaint I get from men is that we get stuck in our heads, always overthinking.

It's also a big complaint from our feminine partners as well, why can't we be more present here in the moment with them, not in another world. I find myself sometimes in another timeline when I'm really in my head!

This occurs especially when we feel stress and overwhelm, we resort to trying to ‘think’ our way out if, which can make it worse, and the cycle repeats.

I could sit here and tell you an infinite amount of reasons why I could be feeling stressed… But nothing changes.

Thinking your way out of stress is the long and complex route, getting into our body and co-regulation is the short-cut.

Practices that get us back into our bodies, brings focus to our sensations rather than the meaning of them, allows us to feel them and in turn relax our nervous system, with the purpose of becoming calm again.

Because when we are calm, our ability to think clears up and alas, we can now see possibility once more and our damn fine logical minds can finally work their magic!

Breathwork is my go to, yoga is everywhere and bringing in mindfulness in our movement becomes important to get back into our bodies.

You know you're in your body when you feel more than you think, sometimes it can be uncomfortable, but this discomfort is stress, worry, tension, trauma and trapped emotions being processed and leaving our bodies. This discomfort is healthy!

When we practice these or share our emotions with another safe person, this is co-regulation. This helps us soothe and manage distressing emotions to an even greater extent, calming us down.

Co-regulation practices in particular with our partner also creates another degree of intimacy without the need to have sex.

Time for us to get feeeeeling!