3 things you need to stop doing to save your relationship
Many empathetic men have the best intentions in their relationships, overflowing with love to give. Yet, relationships can be challenging because we feel everything deeply, take on too much responsibility, and make it all about us.
This leads to disconnect, lack of intimacy, miscommunication, and resentment.
Here are three things to stop doing as an empathetic man, to save your relationship:
💡 Shutting Down
Feeling everything, including our partner's emotions, can be overwhelming, leading us to shut down and escape the moment, hoping it will go away. It won’t. Instead, it causes our partner to feel rejected. We need to learn to stay present with our partner in the moment despite all the emotions and discomfort, and communicate what is happening for us internally, as this will reduce the overwhelm. Our role as the masculine is to be the structure for the emotion.
💡 Taking Responsibility for Their Emotions
I notice a tendency to often make our partner’s emotions about us, feeling the need to fix things for them. Somewhere in the past we felt responsible for our caregiver’s emotional state, and we take that into our adult relationships, always making it about us. Everyone’s emotions are their responsibility, and out partner does not need for us to fix the situation or them, all we need to do is to hold them in whatever they go through, to fully see and hear them, without reaction and going into solutions.
💡 Trying to Be the Man You Think She Wants
When I was younger, I struggled with dating and thought I needed to be what women wanted. This led to many failures when my true self emerged. Many men seek approval and love by pleasing others rather than being authentic. We can only pretend for so long before we exhaust ourselves and the truth surfaces. Be truthful to the man you are and becoming, so your partner can find out who you really are and love you for that.
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