Unlocking the Power Beneath Your Anger
Over the weekend, I attended a one-day event on the Gold Coast called Sacred Rage, run by some incredible men’s coaches, and it blew me away.
The whole premise was this: every man carries suppressed anger and rage, often tied to a deep core wound, and unless we face it, that wound silently shapes our lives—blocking our success, love, and potential.
With the support of 19 other men, each of us went through an intense process to access and release that rage, moving past the threshold of anger into the wound itself. And what was waiting on the other side? Peace. Power. Presence.
I can’t fully describe the moment when the switch flicked inside me. One minute, I was standing there, feeling the familiar resistance in my body, the tension I’ve carried for years. The next, a roar erupted from deep within me, a force I didn’t even know existed. It was raw, unfiltered, and completely liberating. It wasn’t just about expressing anger, it was about reclaiming a part of myself I had buried a long time ago.
For most of my life, I suppressed my anger.
Growing up, I saw firsthand how destructive it could be. My father’s anger was unpredictable and explosive, and as a young boy, I felt powerless in its presence. I learned quickly that anger led to pain, so I made a silent vow to never be like that.
That decision shaped everything - I became a peacemaker, a people-pleaser, avoiding conflict at all costs. I attempted to control everyone around me to not be angry, because I couldn't handle it. I also convinced myself I wasn’t an angry person… yet I constantly found myself irritated, resentful, and frustrated, and directing it all back at myself.
I’ve realised that by suppressing my anger, I was also suppressing my confidence, my power, my ability to fully go after what I want.
Here’s what I took away from the experience:
Every man has an enormous life force energy within him, but it’s often buried under layers of conditioning, wounding, and beliefs. That suppression shows up in subtle ways - playing small, being too passive, constantly seeking external validation, or feeling like something is off but not knowing why.
Anger itself isn’t the problem, it’s how we relate to it. Most men have been conditioned to believe anger is dangerous, shameful, or something to avoid. But in truth, anger (when harnessed correctly) is a source of immense strength. It gives us boundaries, assertiveness, drive, and presence. Without it, we’re disconnected from a key part of our masculine energy.
On the other side of our deepest pain is profound peace and love. The moment I stopped resisting and fully stepped into my anger, I felt an overwhelming wave of clarity and calm. The same energy that once fueled resentment now felt like pure life force coursing through me.
Men need to be held by other men. The most powerful part of the experience wasn’t just unleashing anger, it was being fully seen and supported by other men through it. I had 19 other men standing around me, holding space, guiding me deeper, reassuring me that it was safe. Feeling another man’s hand on my back, hearing his voice grounding me, it made me realise just how much I had been doing alone, and how healing it is to be truly held.
If something in your life isn’t working, there’s a core wound underneath it. The same patterns such as struggles in relationships, feeling stuck in business, money issues, never stepping into your full confidence, aren’t coincidences. They are symptoms of something deeper. Until that root wound is addressed, life will keep bringing the same lessons, over and over again.
This weekend shifted something deep within me, but the real work begins now. Integration. Living in this new state. That’s why I believe so deeply in men’s communities, because no man can do this work alone.
If you resonate with this, if you’ve struggled with anger, whether it controls you or you’ve suppressed it, maybe it’s time to explore what’s underneath it. It could be the very thing that unlocks your true power and brings back your potent life force that wants to come out into the world.
If you’re curious about what that next step might look like for you, let’s jump on a call. I can point you in the right direction.