Struggling to experience joy as a high performing man?

If you're struggling to experience joy...

A reason is, the emotions we had previously deemed unacceptable as children, will be much harder to access when we’re adults.

As kids, we had emotions that were rejected by our caregivers, emotions they didn’t have the capacity to handle at the time, or they were triggered by, and so they shamed these emotions.

e.g. Punished whenever we showed anger, told to toughen up whenever we showed sadness, told to stop and calm down whenever we expressed too much joy.

As children when these emotions are rejected, we then deem unacceptable.

So we learn to suppress them, and deem them unsafe.

Then when we get older, we need these emotions to live a well-balanced life, but they’re much harder to access because of years of suppression.

e.g. We need anger to set boundaries and stand up for ourselves, we need joy to gain pleasure and enjoyment in our life, we need sadness to process pain.

So how do we integrate them?

Firstly, recognise what emotions you’re needing access to first in your life e.g. joy

Then notice when you’re pushing this away as it arises, and what the story you’re telling yourself in the moment? E.g. Whenever I win at work, I quickly suppress joy because I’m afraid I’ll make others feel bad or they will judge me.

The more you notice the act of suppression, the faster you will be able to pause and choose differently.

Realising, it's safe and healthy to feel and express joy. The stories holding you back aren't true.

As you continue to choose differently, the more this emotion will become available to you and eventually integrated back into who you are.

Allowing yourself to experience joy to it’s fullest, with zero cares given!

In light of this, do you ever wonder where those unbridled emotions or that tenacity for life you had as a child lie?

Or, do you ever wonder how you can ignite that zest for life and fire within you so you can pour it into your everyday life and activities?

This is all still within you and accessible at anytime, it's just a matter of discovering the unconscious blocks to them.

In my 1:1 coaching, I help you remove the blocks and access your innate aliveness, reclaim your child like energy and experience those positive emotions so you can bring your most authentic self back into your career, leadership, relationship and family.

When you're at your best, alive and experiencing joy, everyone benefits.