A Man’s biggest wound is his gateway to freedom

A common theme coming up lately in the work I do with men.

Especially those who struggle to live up to expectations, high achievers who are never satisfied or extremely hard on themselves, and men who hide what they really think and feel from others…

Is the Father wound.

The son unconsciously carries his father’s pain and darkness, in a bid to either protect his father or stay connected to his father, regardless of whether he is present in the son’s life or not.

The son will unconsciously become like his father and take on his way of being, to carry on his legacy as a way of being loyal to his lineage.

For many men, their father’s attributes do not serve them as adults, and the son struggles to be his true self and cultivate the life he wants as an adult, often wondering if there’s something wrong with himself.

A big part of a boy’s journey into becoming a man is to heal his father’s wound, by releasing what is not his and what he no longer has to carry for his dad.

The son chooses to finally stamp his authority of who he truly wants to be in the world, and not what was expected of him, or what was modelled for him growing up.

He can finally be free to be himself and make his own unique impact in the world.

This wound, has been my biggest life struggle, and brought me a lot of pain and self-loathing.

Now I’m on the other side of it after a mountain of work, I get to love and accept my father unconditionally for who he is now, rather than the resentment I held for a lifetime, and get to own the weird self that I am now!

If you’re a man who resonates with this, I see you, you’re not alone, many men I work with are discovering this pattern in them and finally releasing it… Which is changing their lives, as it did mine.

A few questions you can ask yourself if you want to start to unpack this more is:

• What was my relationship like with my father growing up?

• What patterns do I embody now that resembles his and how is that serving me?

• Were there parts of my personality I felt I had to hide or suppress in order to make him feel more comfortable or to gain his approval?

The more we can learn what we have picked up from our father or what we may be protecting him from, the less burden we have to carry as men.

This process can be quite confronting for some, but I guarantee peace and freedom is on the other side of it.

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