A fully expressed man, is a fulfilled man

One of the biggest lessons about men I’ve learned over the many years working as a coach, is that we as men, have a deep need to express ourselves.

To express ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Most of us are taught from a young age or model from our fathers, to remain stoic and show no signs of "weakness" or emotional expression.

So we learn to stuff any expression down and keep it silent.

What’s funny is that before we learned this conditioning, as children we expressed ourselves unapologetically, we processed what came up in the moment and within minutes we felt instantly better again, we get over it and move forward.

Now, we suppress it all, and it slowly eats away at us inside, often resulting in anger and shame. Holding it in, or holding grudges for days, weeks, months and years.

Why coaching works so well, is because it gives men the opportunity and permission to express all of themselves, and I notice how much relief they feel instantly as a result. They feel empowered.

Which presents the confronting reality - Most men do not have a healthy outlet to express themselves.

These men I talk to, aren’t even able to fully express themselves in their intimate relationship, which should be the safest space in their lives, but it’s not and I get it. Most women do not understand us and what we go through.

On the flip side, those men who are able to express themselves fully in their lives, are the most fulfilled. They feel they have nothing to hide, they feel light and free to be themselves because they are expressing what’s within themselves.

I notice whenever I’ve got something challenging going on and I remain stuck in my head, trying to deal with it internally through analysis and over thinking, I feel miserable and lose complete presence in the moment, affecting everyone else around me.

Whenever I express what’s on my mind verbally and writing it down, all that tension is released and I realise it’s not as bad as it seems in my head, but also I feel satisfied knowing I’ve got nothing I’m hiding inside me.

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This is evident in The Ascension community.

Last week we had our Men’s Circle, which we hold every second Wednesday.

This is designed for the guys to come into a sacred space, and share whatever is on their mind and express themselves unapologetically, in front of other safe men.

A phenomena I've learned all of the guys have never experienced before in their own male friendship circles.

The rules are as follows - There is no judgement, everything said is confidential, there is to be no unsolicited advice and only one man speaks at a time.

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Once the share is complete, the guys listening are then allowed to ask questions and champion the man who’s sharing in the circle, which allows the man sharing to be fully seen and heard by men who understand him.

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Each man is given the opportunity to fully express themselves.

From the feedback I’ve received, these men feel more connected, safe and supported like never before.

They report feeling inspired to work harder towards their goals, speak their voice in other areas of their lives and encouraged to keep moving through their own personal challenges.

A fully expressed man, is an inspired, free and fulfilled man.

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​So, my question to you… Are you expressing yourself fully in your life at the moment?

PS… If you’re a man who wants to be supported by other men on the same journey of self discovery and development, if you’re holding a lot of tension, emotion and thoughts inside you and want to learn how to process them in the most healthy way possible, and if you’re ready to express yourself so you can improve the intimacy in your relationships and build your influence as a leader...

The Ascension Me'n’s Community might be for you, check it out here

To your full expression!