Think You Have Low Self-Worth? It Might Be Something Else Entirely

Many men come to me seeking more confidence.... To thrive socially, attract their dream partner, revitalise their relationship, showcase their talents and voice at work, or start their business.

They carry a heavy awareness of why they don’t have what they want, and quick to label their struggles as a "self-worth issue."

I often hear: “I have low self worth” or “My self worth is at an all time low”

But what if low self-worth isn’t actually the problem?

Here’s the thing: if you’re investing in yourself whether by exercising, eating well, showing up at work, reading, learning... Then you already believe you’re worthy.

Because, if someone chooses to invest in themselves, it means they believe they are worthy of something.

So, what if it’s not about self-worth at all? What if the real challenge is courage?

When men hesitate to speak up, take risks, or put themselves out there, it’s not always because they lack self-worth. It’s often because they lack the courage to act in spite of doubt or fear.

The truth is, even men who have strong self-worth still face hesitation, fear of rejection, or the sting of failure. The difference? They’re willing to take courageous steps anyway.

Courage is:

• Saying what’s on your mind even when it feels risky.

• Taking action before you feel "ready enough."

• Asking for what you want, knowing the answer might be no.

• Showing up, even when the outcome is uncertain.

Here’s the interesting part: when you act with courage, you build a deeper sense of self-worth.

Every time you take a step that challenges you, you’re reinforcing to yourself:

• “I am capable.”

• “I can handle discomfort.”

• “I’m worthy of taking up space and being seen.”

Self-worth grows when you demonstrate to yourself that you have the courage to face life head-on.

Instead of focusing on whether you feel “worthy enough,” ask yourself:

• Where can I act despite my fear or discomfort?

• How can I show myself that I’m stronger than my hesitation?

You might just find that courage, not self-worth, is the true game changer.

So, what’s the courageous action you’re going to take next?