The curse of intelligence for men...

I coach some of the most intelligent men I’ve ever met, yet I find a common trait amongst them…

They remain stuck, because of their incredibly logical brains.

Continuously self-sabotaging and wondering why they find it hard to change.

Their intelligent minds think up all the potential worst-case scenarios and risks, or constantly re-evaluate their plan of action, which becomes a form of procrastination.

They’re too smart for their own good, by worrying themselves out of taking risks and action.

They become hypervigilant, and have too much awareness of what may go wrong, which becomes debilitating.

Through overcomplicating strategy and action, they become frustrated and impatient by their lack of results, which is really a frustration of themselves for not doing what they know they should be doing

An example of this is during work meetings, they know they should be speaking up, they’ve received feedback that they need to believe in their own ideas more and share them…

Yet they remain silent, ruminating over what they’re going to say, whether it’s correct or not, if this fact can be challenged, how it may be received by others and how they may look…

By the time they have gone through the hundredth scenario, the meeting is done and the opportunity is gone.

They walk away dissatisfied, frustrated with themselves and disappointed it’s happened again.

They are unfulfilled potential.

A common issue for these men is they stay stuck in their heads to deal with it, trying to figure everything out, which is where the over-complication occurs.

How do the men I work with move through this?

Simply, by talking through their challenges out aloud and revealing blind spots.

Men generally don’t talk about their challenges, and because they don’t, they never get the opportunity to have their blind spots reflected back to them.

That’s all these men need.

They are fully capable, but only when they have clarity on what’s getting in their way.

Rather than spending days in their heads trying to figure that out.

Men need men. We need other men to challenge and champion us, like only men can because we understand each other and how our minds work.

Having a community of men in our lives who we can lean upon, encourage us, give us feedback and call out our blind spots is invaluable, and essential for us becoming our best selves and creating more success in our lives.

In the Ascension community, this is exactly what we do for each other.

We have created a sacred space where men from all around the world can come together.

In our Men’s Circle, these men receive the undivided attention of the group to speak unapologetically about what they’re going through. We then support and champion these men, to help them see their challenges from a new perspective, reveal blindspots and process what they struggle to do by themselves.

Here's what one of the members said about it:

“The men's circle in particular has been so helpful to be in a space without judgement and silly comments. Not only to just get things out but also to observe and see what other men go through and feel like we're not along, as well as to receive some thoughtful questions that help me think on things. As you said, we're just so used to grinding away with things in our heads and we don't always have someone to be able to do that with.”

If you resonate with this, I invite you to think about what men do you have in your life whom can hold space for you and champion you.

Men need other men.