How the Introvert Identity can hide our potential
There are many of us who hide our potential behind our identity as an Introvert.
As an introverted man, I very much know and own the fact I am an introvert.
My nature is quiet, introspective, I think before I speak, I struggle to start conversations and after a social event, I usually need a day in bed to recover lol.
What I appreciate about other introverted men, is that they are fully aware they are introverted and own it too.
However, they own this label of introversion so much so, they will avoid or resist potential opportunities to standout in their career or personal lives, because in their words “I’m too introverted for that”.
9/10 of my introverted clients who are men, all believe they have something worth sharing with the world and want to build the confidence to speak it when an opportunity arises. Which I deeply respect and want to help empower, because their words can make a big and positive impact around them. They are incredible heart-led leaders.
The only issue, is the identity of being an introvert get’s in their way, because being outspoken about their own ideas, leading a group discussion and holding the attention of a room full of people, is something they believe isn’t natural, and not a part of who they are.
So they remain silent and small. They remain aligned to their identity, whether it serves them or not.
Leaving the world around them to never experience the privilege of listening and comprehending their often; profound wisdom, insight and observations, which are their greatest strengths.
These men often look around the meeting room and witness other leaders with envy, effortlessly and charismatically deliver their message, wishing either they could do the same or telling themselves “why should I even bother trying, I am not as good as x”.
However, there is a part of them deep down that listens to these other leaders, and notices blind spots, clearly missed details and the need for a different perspective. They would rehearse in their heads what they would like to say, but unfortunately, never say it. Often judging or criticising themselves once the opportunity passes.
This is the cycle many introverted leaders go through in their minds.
How can we break this cycle?
Reframing what it means to be an introvert.
Being introverted doesn’t mean you can’t be outspoken, charismatic and hold the attention of a room, it just doesn’t come as easy, and that’s okay.
It takes practice, and most of all, it takes learning what get’s in the way of speaking our truth and shining.
Once we become aware of what blocks us and practice speaking our truth, we have the ability in the moment to take a step into courage, and watch your introverted self, become a temporary extravert whilst sharing what you’re passionate about or believe in.
I notice when I love what I talk about or it’s something I believe in, I won’t shut up!
Give yourself the opportunity to do the same, time to share that precious voice.